Signs You’re In A One-Sided Relationship

You can be in a one-sided relationship and not even know it because A) You want to see what you want to see and B) The guy you’re seeing puts in just enough effort to give you the hope he’ll commit, eventually. But here’s a truth about men: they’re either all in immediately, or they never really are. Here’s how to know if you’re the only one taking your relationship seriously.

 You’re always the first one to bring up an issue

If there’s a problem between the two of you, you’re clearly unhappy and bumping heads, you always have to be the one to bring it up. In other words, you’re the only one who cares enough about the relationship to want to resolve problems.

He gets annoyed when you bring up an issue

He immediately rolls his eyes, or makes you feel that you’re burdening him when you want to talk about an issue. This is because he doesn’t care what the benefits could be of overcoming your issues—he’s not that invested anyways.

He doesn’t know what’s happening in your life

If you really think about it, he has no idea what a day in your life looks like. He has no idea how mean your boss is, or that you go to yoga during your lunch break. The most basic, common things about you—he doesn’t know. And that’s either because he’s a terrible listener or doesn’t make you feel comfortable talking to him.

When you ask him to hang out you feel you’re asking for a favor

You find yourself nervous to ask him to do something with you, as if you’re asking your teacher for a hall pass! He always makes it seem like he’s doing you a favor by coming along with you to things.

He has dumb reasons for not calling you

Okay so there wasn’t good cell reception at the hotel he was staying at for the weekend. But there was a perfectly good landline he could have called you from…He’s been crazy busy at work, but you know he stopped to eat lunch or go to the bathroom; he could have texted you. Yet, if there is an excuse why he couldn’t get in touch, he takes advantage of that excuse.

You only spend time together at home

When he is in the mood to go out, he does so with friends. But when he’s with you, he just wants to be lazy, stay at home, have sex, watch TV and go to sleep. Essentially, he doesn’t think you’re worth his effort of putting on a happy face and rallying for a night out.

You’re the only one making kind gestures

You buy him thoughtful gifts, plan fun dates, and make him nice meals all the time. And he hasn’t once reciprocated.

You’re never together on the holidays

He won’t come see your family, and always has some excuse why it’s for the best you don’t come with him. He refuses to change his traditions or patterns in order for the two of you to be together. Preserving his life as it was before you is more important to him than building a new life with you.

I Met My Guy Through A Friend But I Don’t Seem To Understand What He Is Up To!

This is from a NEB Reader:

I have been dating this guy for a year and 4 months now. He's 35 and I am 25. No doubt he’s caring and nice but the truth is, we've never met before. He was introduced to me by a friend. For the past 16 months things have been going smoothly. He planned coming home last Xmas but couldn't make it due to work issues. He wasn't given vacation permit. My family and his are aware of the relationship.What we are waiting for, is for him to come home.

To cut the long story short,my problem and fear are these: He has never used the word Love to me. He says he will use it whenever we see. Secondly,each time we have an issue, I am always the one calling his attention. What he does is to ignore me. No effort to know what the problem is and I try to resolve it. I see myself fighting to keep this relationship,no effort on his part. I don’t want to be that person. Presently,we are having issues and for two weeks he hasn’t called. I tried calling and texting but to no avail. I don’t know what to do. In as much as I appreciate him.I don’t wanna look desperate. I need your candid advice.
Thanks!

Everyone Thinks My Man Is Ugly Including My Mum & This Is Really Tearing Me Apart!

This is from a NEB reader:

I am currently in a relationship with a guy who is 11yrs older than I am. I am 20 and he is 31, the age is actually not the problem as my dad is 16yrs older than my mum.
My relationship is just perfect,we both love each other dearly, that is something we are both very sure of, he wants to get married to me any time soon, even though I objected to it at first because I am so much in love with my education, and don’t want to be a liability to any man. I am currently a 200l law student, but right now I am just so into him that I want the marriage even more than him, he is also willing to wait a few more years(say like 2yrs).
My problem actually is his looks, according to my friends, my aunt who knows him and my MUM. They all feel he is UGLY. My problem actually is my mum, I love her so much i don’t want to disappoint her. She is friends with him on Fb, we rarely talk about him, but on a particular day she mentioned that he was Ugly. I am really worried as this is a problem to me.To be sincere, most times, I also hate him for this reason, and always ponder how I even accepted him let alone fallen in love with him. I actually never said yes to him, I just fell in love with his personality.
Now my problem is how do I tell him that everyone thinks he is ugly? How do I tell him my mum,siblings, aunt who he so cherishes think he is ugly? How on earth will this sound to his ears? What do I do, should I just put all this behind me and go on with wanting 2 marry him? And face the fact that I will be mocked by friends and family? He has a great future, he is focused,responsible,determined, but if not for the saying that no one is perfect I would have said he is a “perfect gentle man”.

Please I need your advice.

Family catch incredibly rare six-tentacled octopus during Greek vacation… then bash it to death and serve it up with a slice of lemon before discovering it is only the second ever seen...

Hmmmmm.........
A US citizen told how he caught and ate an octopus on holiday - only to discover it was the second rare six-legged specimen ever found.
Mechanical engineer Labros Hydras, 49, pulled the creature - dubbed a ‘hexapus’ - from the sea as he went snorkelling in Greece.
He and his son followed local tradition by smashing it against a rock to kill it and then took it to a nearby taverna to cook.
The chef refused to cook it for him because it was so rare and told Labros he should have let the octopus live.
But the father-of-two, who was born in Greece and now lives in Washington D.C., fried it for his supper anyway and served it up with a slice of tomato and lemon.
After finishing it off he decided to check out what the chef had said - and felt sick when he realised what he had done.................Ewwwwwwwwwest i cant even think of eating it....*pukes*.........see more photos after the cut...

GIRL-CHILD MARRIAGE: SOURCE and EFFECTS; A NO CRY TO IT!

On Tuesday, 17th July 2013, Senate Constitutional Review Committee proposed a removal of section 29[4](b) of the constitution, which deals with manner of renunciation of citizenship, which states that a married woman shall be deemed to be of full age.......... continue reading!

Beauty beyond borders: have you seen the hidden wonders of both North AND South Korea?

Amazing right??

It's the REAL thing: How tastier 'Mexican Coke' made with cane sugar has become a hit among those in the know!!

A version of Coca-Cola which is made with real cane sugar, rather than high-fructose corn syrup, has become the beverage of choice among trendy New Yorkers.
The U.S. uses the cheaper sweetener in its sodas because of government-imposed importation laws that make sugar more expensive here than in any other country.
But fans of Mexican Coke, as it is often called because it is bottled south of the border, say that this 'purer' soda is superior in both taste and quality - even if it costs a little extra....... Wow i would love to taste dis.......*winks*

British woman dies trying to swim across English Channel for charity!

Susan Taylor got into “serious difficulties” in one of the busiest shipping lanes in the world as she approached France on Sunday.
The 34-year-old accountant from Barwell, Leics., undertook the challenge to raise money for Diabetes UK and Rainbows, an East Midlands children’s hospice.
She had previously completed several other open water challenges, swimming the length of Lake Coniston in the Lake District, swimming at the Olympic rowing venue and completing a relay swim across the English channel in the past year alone.
She predicted that her English Channel solo swim would be “tougher than Everest”, however.
After covering herself in goose fat in preparation for the ordeal, she set off at about 1am but became ill just a mile off the French coast.
"She was then air lifted by helicopter to a hospital in Boulonge. Susan tragically passed away.
"Thank you for your messages of support. Please respect the family's privacy whilst they come to terms with what has happened. If you would like to leave a sign of respect please feel free to donate to her fund raising page."
Susan was raising money for Diabetes UK and the Rainbows Children's Hospice in Loughborough.
A police source in Boulogne-sur-Mer said: "She was swimming from Britain, and was well-supported."

The woman who will never grow up: 3ft tall Laxmi weighs just 3 stone and dresses in children's clothes but is actually 20 years old

She has watched her friends grow into young women but Laxmi Yadev has not changed since the age of five.
Now 20 years old, Laxmi is still only three feet three inches tall, weighs just three stone and wears clothes meant for six-year-old children.
A rare genetic disorder meant Laxmi stopped growing 15 years ago and she is resigned to living the rest of her life as a woman trapped in a child's body.

Beware of the person sitting next to you at events!!!

We meet all sorts of people at events, and could also sit near someone we don’t know. In that respect you and a friend may be talking about a confidential matter, oblivious of the fact that the other person is listening intentionally to cause you trouble later. continue reading....

A “Married Woman” Or A Wife: Which Woman Do You Really Want To Be?

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Is what I desire what I truly desire? Is what I want what I really think it is? Do I really know what I am asking for, or is my fantasy greater than the reality I dream of?

So he finally proposed and you've set the date. You've picked out the perfect dress, selected your bridal party and planned the perfect day to profess your love to the one who professed his love to you when he asked for your hand in marriage. These have been the moments you have been waiting for; being proposed to and planning a wedding and you are now ready to be a wife!
Or are you?

[MUST READ] Read The 100% Pathetic Story Of Chinwe Who Was Deceived, Duped And Grossly Abused By A Twitter Follower

From a NEB Reader;

Hi all,
This is a little story I want to share, it’s a true life tale, and as always I will appeal that you read it and make sense of it, and share it.

The names, dates and events have been altered, so any similarities are entirely coincidental....... continue reading....

These roots are made for walking! The question is would you rock these?

Would you rock these? "even if dem dash me i no want"

Nothing says high fashion like boots made from entangled pieces of bone.
Inspired by 'wild nature', Dutch fashion designer Iris van Herpen showcased shoes that looked like works of abstract sculpture for her Haute Couture Fall 2013 collection in Paris.
The 29-year-old wunderkind, a former intern of Alexander McQueen and Lady Gaga favorite, said she was focused on organisms and exoskeletons fused with Japanese culture. See more photos ohhhhh